HEY EVERYONE, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Just wanted to get that out of the way. Seriously though, this is my happy place. Once a week, coming here, and sharing with you all, it's my baby. I really should have made a bigger deal out of the that fact that WE ARE ONE YEARS OLD.
SERIOUSLY 1. That's a whole year I've been doing this, and I'm so proud of myself!!! I need to start sharing more of my daily routine type stuff, but this...this will still focus on matters of the heart. So today I wanted to talk about something that came up in conversation last night, and that is the importance of being kind AND still showing up as your most AUTHENTIC you. :)
I don't know if you have caught on by now, but I'm a little bit over the top, a little bit conceited, but at the same time down to earth, a dreamer, a lover, and a really good sister and friend. I try to live by the golden rule "treat others as you would want to be treated", and there are some days when I fall short of that bc NEWS FLASH, I'm human. I dont hold myself to some GODLY standard of being perfect, (well sometimes I do, this is actually one thing I have to work on), bc I realize thinking I can attain perfection is, as a good friend once told me, "foolish at best and destructive at worst".
However, being kind to others shouldn't be something you have to "work hard to do", after all, we are all human, and all on our own journey, and magic happens when we cross paths with one another, whether we allow people to affect us negatively or positively is up to us and how we interpret our encounters.
I dislike people who don't take other people's lives into account when they talk to them, you know the type I'm talking about, they judge blindly, assume they know everything, and decide to make it their personal vendetta to treat these people accordingly. I have never in my life understood people who operate this way. I was always raised to treat everyone with respect and kindness, even if they aren't so kind to me or if they come from different walks of life, and have different views/beliefs/morals etc, because trust me, and you should all know, we are all fighting our own internal and external battles.
There have been a few instances in my life that I have allowed the opinions of others to dissuade me from being, well to put it plainly, ME. I have always had a personality that is larger than life, I have always loved taking selfies, sharing stuff on social media, I am pretty sure I was one of the original members of facebook when it first came out, I had a myspace, I made friends from all over the world on yahoo pool chat, I met a boy on myspace from England and then flew to meet him. I am that girl, the adventurer, the lover of all people, the bohemian free spirit, the one who falls in love with people quickly, and maintains those loving connections by watering them over a lifetime, that is me, and MOST DAYS I love myself completely, faults and all. I was talking to someone the other day about my blog, this person had read all of my entries and pointed out that it seems like I really put off the idea that "nothing bothers me", but that through my entries they could tell that I actually do really care what people think, and that stung a little bit, but it's the truth. I wish I could lie and say whole heartedly "I don't give a F*** what you all think of me", but that just wouldn't be true. You can ask my family and close friends, my head is always buzzing about why that person treated me that way, and why they said that to me in that way, so I guess that's why, for me, it's SO important to make sure that when I talk to someone and interact with someone that they completely understand the way that I meant for what I said and did to come across, bc it matters to me that you know that I never mean to do harm through my words and my actions, bc I know how badly it can hurt when they are taken to heart and misinterpreted, bc I have had some things said to me before that stung and hurt and sometimes made me not really want to be as open with my sharing, as I am confidently doing now.
Here's the deal though, at the end of the day, though the words of other people may hurt, it's just like I said... we all are battling out own stuff, and I saw this post on insta that had this quote and it was so beautifully written that I will share it here:
"People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you"
-Abraham Hicks,
The only person you should worry about and do anything about is YOU, and so what if that girl makes fun of you for posting about yourself 9453925 times a day, and SO WHAT if someone doesn't support your dream or think you'll make it, and SO WHAT if someone makes a snide comment about your life choices, and SO WHAT if someone judges you for not drinking when you go out to dinner with friends, and SO WHAT if people decide not to hang out with you and call you and follow through like they said they would, none of that has anything to do with YOU, people respond/react because of whatever they have going on in their lives, whatever is relative to them, and we live in this society where we think it's always about US, when in fact, it's just not, and if you think i'm preaching.... trust me 99% of what I say, I'm saying for own benefit, too, because I have arrived to this place where, yes I don't care what you think of me, but yes it still stings sometimes when I get negative criticism/feedback, but NO it doesn't have to stop me from being myself anymore, however YES I do still get my feelings hurt, but the difference for me is that I don't stay there, and no-one else gets to be in the driver seat of my life but me, and I wanna go places baby, so Idgaf if you're not interested in my blog, or my hair posts, or my free abercrombie ads.... I'm just living my life and enjoying it, and the way I operate doesn't matter to anyone else...but ME.
If I could give any advice it would be this: Free yourself from the thoughts and responses of others and just keep showing up as your amazing and beautiful self, and do all the things YOUR heart desires in spite of the comments of others. Keep people in your life that support your dreams, encourage you when you need motivating, and love you through the UPs and the DOWNs of life, bc those are the people who will help you feel less crazy when you go on and on about pursuing your seemingly "crazy" dreams.
Live your best life for YOU, and own it. We only live once right?
All my love,
xoxo Mishako.
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