Hey Everyone!!! HAPPY BLOG DAY, today's post is ALLL about Spending time with people vs taking time for yourself, which is the 3rd and FINAL part of the 3 part series on B A L A N C E. If you happened to miss the others, you can always go back and scroll through my past posts and check them out!
So let's dive in: For me, I think this part of anyone's life truly depends on the season, your level of codependence vs independence, and what factors are contributing to your need to commune with your people.
For example, I found out a little while ago that I won't have a job after August 31st, so I have been very emotional lately. I feel like a basket case lol. I have been crying a lot due to having anxiety about the unknown, and have been relying heavily on my friends and family for support, therefore I have been surrounding myself with them recently.
I also go through spells when I feel less of a need to be around people. I love to give myself breaks from people by doing all sorts of things by myself to recharge. I love walking, working out, going to counseling, yoga at home on my mat, getting up and drinking my coffee by myself in the mornings, living by myself. I have finally gotten to a place where I have found peace in solitude, and I also think it's very important for us all to get in some "me time". So when is the right time to do that? Again, I think this is relative to your human experience, and how overwhelmed you may get by human interaction. I am an extrovert to my core, so most of the time I thrive when I'm around people. I love meeting new people, I love carrying a conversation with new people/getting to know them. I am a people person by nature. I love listening/learning about others, and really connecting. That is what life is about in my opinion. So it shouldn't surprise you that I really do make friends wherever I go, and I try to spread my kindness along with me. HOWEVER, there are times when I get overwhelmed from all of the human interaction. I am an empath, so I feel other people's energy, meaning whatever feelings they are feeling, I experience those, too. I truly do have a lot of empathy, it's wild. If you cry, I'm going to cry. If you hurt, chances are, I will too. I have just always been good at listening, discussing, feeling, and healing, and the nature of my job often requires a lot of human interaction, so I tend to easily require a couple of nights to myself to re-charge. So here are some self-care things I love to do BY MYSELF that help me re-charge:
Go for walks, my walks are so therapeutic for me. I love walking because it's a great way of walking into a new way of thinking and feeling
Staying in for the night and binge watching a show, yep I said what I said. I do this sometimes I think that it's okay to veg out from time to time.
Relaxing by the pool/or outside in the sun if you don't have a pool and weather is permitting, yes you can do this with other people, but laying by the pool by yourself and grabbing a good book are great ways to de-stress/de-compress without direct one-on-one interaction with other humans
Writing- man I love to write, hence this blog. To me, sharing my feelings/thoughts on paper and with the world is a form of therapy for me. It helps me to let go of and process things, and because of this blog I know it's a double whammy because I also get to utilize this platform to help/inspire people.
Go to the gym, working out by yourself can be really really therapeutic. I especially love to do this when I am feeling stressed, upset, or sad. Those endorphins that are released through exercise are a game changer.
Taking a bath: oh man, I was actually just talking to a really good friend about this. Wherever I move next HAS to have a bathtub. I'm a bath kinda gal. I wash my hair once a week, so having a bath is a must for me, and I find bathing to be SUPER relaxing.
Deep breathing exercises: man it's so important to practice your deep breathing. You would be surprised how often we all forget to breathe throughout the day.
Reading a good book, nothing like curling up on the couch or bed and reading a good book.
Taking a nap, I feel like this is self-explanatory.
Getting your favorite meal (for me chili cheese tots, lol)
Doing all of your housework/meal prepping -- yes I enjoy doing this stuff by myself. It makes me feel good to have a clean apartment and good food prepared for the week, so I especially love to do this on Sundays, because I feel like it's the best day to get yourself centered and prepped for the week.
Get a mani/pedi: if you enjoy doing this type of thing for self-care, this is def a good thing to enjoy by yourself.
Go to the movies- I took myself to the movies not too long ago, and I LOVED IT. I had the whole theater to myself and I sat back and enjoyed the show without anyone interrupting me, standing in my way, etc.
So here's the deal and how I truly feel about "me time". I mostly love to spend my time with the people that I love (and you can ask any of my friends and family about the truthiness of this statement), but I also TRULY value my "me time". I think it's soooooo important to pull myself away from people for a little while and recharge, so that I can build upon my independence and learn to enjoy my solitude. I think there is something so beautiful/powerful about a woman, or anyone really, who truly knows how to love and appreciate spending time with themselves, and it's not easy for a lot of people to master, so it's something I have been striving to do for myself, so on the off chance that I do decide to move to a city far away, I am mentally/emotionally/spiritually equipped to handle my daily life by myself without the NEED to constantly be surrounded by people, relying on them to fulfill my life.
I am sure there are so many more things that I could say, or that I forgot that I do that help me build on that independence, and help me to recharge after giving all of my energy to other people, but this is all that I can think of for now. This also concludes my B A L A N C E series, so there you have it. AND TRUST ME, I am ALWAYS a working progress, but there's nothing in my life that can't be fixed/changed without a lot of willingness/hard work/dedication.
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Take care and see ya in two weeks!!
xoxo
Mishako
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